Monday, October 22, 2018

Just A Story of Kindness

It's been crazy foggy here for days. We went from stunningly awesome clear blue skies to a bleak darkness that just won't quit. So, there are no photos to post. We just have a simple story of kindness to tell. 

We shop at the local food co-op all the time. It's walking distance from our house, a nice little two-mile round trip. We like to go on Tuesdays because it's senior discount day. Such a funny thing to be "seniors" and yet we are. We often call it Geezer Day and have a good laugh about it. We run into the same people shopping, those of us of a certain age who shop early in the day. We say hello as we all fill our little bags with organic bulk items.

Last Tuesday we were waiting in the checkout line, and one of the familiar old geezer seniors was ahead of us. He was buying a lot of stuff, so we waited and waited. Then, when it came time to pay for his groceries, he pulled out his checkbook, signed a check, and then handed it to the cashier. The cashier then proceeded to fill out all the pertinent stuff and then entered the data in the check register. He showed the check to the customer who approved. When they were finished, the customer turned to us and thanked us for being patient. We said it was fine (even though we are really the most impatient people to walk this earth!). Then the cashier checked us out, and within minutes we were walking home.

When I thought about it over the next few days, I really wanted to thank the cashier for such a thoughtful act of kindness. So, on Sunday when we saw him again, I told him how wonderful it was to see such a thing. He told us that that customer always checks out in his line and that he's been writing the checks for him for a while. He said the man had had a minor stroke and things were not as easy as they once were for him. He told us that the man was a long-time musician in the area and was actually quite well known. And then he shared this story. Back in the 1960s the old man was a musician in Santa Cruz. He was hanging out with Jerry Garcia back in the day. On Saturdays Jerry would go with him to his mom's house for a nice home-cooked meal. We loved hearing that story so much. It made me think that the next time we see the old man, I'm going to introduce myself and shake his hand. Because you know me, I collect handshakes!


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  1. Although dense fog is comes in before dawn in the mornings lately, there has been clearing by afternoon. I thought of you yesterday as I looked up at the sky to the southwest in the late afternoon and saw a brilliant sun dog -- something I rarely see.

    Sweet to hear a story of kindness, and it is a delight to know that it may well lead to another addition to your handshake collection!

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    1. Although dense fog comes in ...
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    2. am-- We had a bit of clearing on Saturday afternoon, but that's all we've seen of the sun for a week. I LOVE that you saw a sundog! Yay! Back in August I added Eleanor Roosevelt to my handshake collection. What surprise that was.

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  2. Since retirement my brother Les and I, whenever one senses that the other is getting impatient, remind each other that we're not in that much of a hurry any more, we have all day, so why worry? It seems to help.

    By coincidence I'm making a trip to my local Co Op later, a round trip of about 2 miles, though I doubt there'll be any acquaintances of members of the Grateful Dead in there.

    If we ever met I don't know if you'd want to shake my hand or not. You see I was given a prize at school and received it from R A Butler, the former leading figure in the British government. As the son of a high-ranking officer in India there's almost certainly a link with Ghandi. As Foreign Secretary he would have shaken hands with all the leading figures of the day. But, as a proponent of appeasement with the Nazis he may well have shaken the hand of.....

    Butler's hand was rather like grasping a dead fish.

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    1. John-- Yes, Roger and I need to remind each other that we truly have all the time in the world these days. Interesting handshake collection you. I would LOVE getting Gandhi's, but the others ... ugh. Still, I would definitely shake your hand.

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  3. Can't say I've seen any one of note in Tesco or the local Waitrose for that matter, Did see Cheggers in M&S once though. Mys look out for these senior dicounts

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    1. Bill-- Definitely keep your eyes open for those senior discounts!

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  4. What a cool story. And yeah, you'll be just one handshake away from Jerry Garcia! That's HUGE!

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    1. steve-- It is HUGE! I have a pretty good collection, and it would be grand to add this one.

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  5. My mouth dropped at the end of the story. To meet someone who hung out with Jerry... wow!!

    It's very heartwarming to hear this story about the cashier, especially when everything these days seems so dismal. I love knowing there are still good people everywhere.

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    1. Sharon-- We were pretty blown away by the end of the story as well. Roger was a big Dead-head fan way back in the day. So it really surprised us. And yes, the cashier's kindness is the story we need to hear these days.

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  6. Great to hear you collect handshakes. I'll expect more good stories behind that!

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    1. Barbara-- Oh yes, I should really update my handshake story. I collected Eleanor Roosevelt's in August. What a surprise that was.

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  7. What a special person that cashier was. Heartening story when you hear so many others of people losing their cool over minor things.
    The old musician would be facinating to spend some time with. Hope you collected the cashier's handshake also.

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    1. Patti-- Yes, the cashier is a very kind man. We really appreciated his efforts. I love the idea of shaking the cashier's hand. In some ways, you never know who you're getting with it!

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  8. We never know who we rub shoulders with. I wish there were more acts of kindness.

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    1. Red-- It's true. One handshake leads to another. And acts of kindness are really the best to share.

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  9. Nice story. I bet your handshake collection is impressive!

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    1. Colette-- I love adding handshakes my list. I also love being able to share the handshakes I collected in the flesh-- Abbie Hoffman, Allen Ginsberg, Lawrence Ferlinghetti, and Ken Kesey!

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    2. Wow! Heroes one and all.

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    3. Colette- Yes! I forgot to add Timothy Leary to my list, but I have mixed feelings about him anyway. LOL!

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  10. Nice story of kindness. Also, fun to be reminded of the handshakes. I'd sort of forgotten about that. I'm trying to think of any interesting handshakes I might have received. I once spend a nice evening chatting with Alan Temko when I visited a friend in Berkeley in 1997. He was the next door neighbour and came over to visit. He knew Jack Kerouac and appeared in three novels under aliases -- so I guess I have a Jack Kerouac handshake once removed. haha

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    1. bev-- I love your handshake story. I googled Allan Temko and loved reading about his time in San Franciso and his roles in Kerouac's novels. Truly grand!

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  11. That cashier would be more fit to be POTUS than the sociopath in office now. I truly was moved by that story. To lose the ability to do simple things must surely be a hard thing to accept, but when the people around you lend a quiet hand, those limitations become less awful. Bless the cashier and bless the man with the stroke.

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    1. CCorax-- Yes, I love the idea of shaking the cashier's hand too. He's really a lovely guy. We talk with him all the time when we're in his line. He's very kind. The world we live in needs kindness now.

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  12. And now I am really curious and hope you'll do more than just shake his hand. Like hear another story, please.

    People shake hands here all the time, so nothing special, apart from the day when I shook hands with Bill Clinton.

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    1. Sabine-- I love that you shook hands with Bill Clinton. That means you are only one handshake removed from John F Kennedy! That is so cool. I have that one too, but not as direct as yours. We shopped today and did not see the old man, but hoping to cross paths again next Tuesday.

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  13. Such a lovely reminder there is still good in our world. I'll keep my eyes trained on that. Thank you, thank you.

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    1. 37paddington-- These days we need to be reminded of goodness any chance we get. You are so welcome!

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  14. next time I see you and shake your hand, you will be able to collect Billie Holiday! She was a friend of my friend Vlad.

    Love your story, here. Makes me happy.

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    1. Tara-- Billie Holiday! Be still my heart. I'm so glad this story made you happy. Me too!

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  15. Thank you for sharing your stories Robin. It seems I'm always in need of them because they fill me right up! I'm a handshake giver so....have I got a handshake for you my friend. :--)

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    1. jsk-- I am looking forward to whomever you have to share with me. We shook hands when you were here in August. I think you gave me Eleanor Roosevelt. Is that right?

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  16. Love the story, Robin. Have you made a list of the handshakes you have collected?

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    1. NCmountainwoman-- I really should make a list, the way my memory is going I'm sure to forget many of them. Good idea!

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  17. We need all the light we can get these days, photographed or painted or described in words. Robin, I always find light here.

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    1. kerrdelune-- Yes, so true, we do need all the light we can get. Thank you for your kind words.

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