Thursday, July 22, 2021

I Deleted A Phone Message

 

Now it says only 1 message

I had saved two messages on our landline answering machine for the past 3 1/2 years. They were from my mom when she was living in the assisted living facility and had Alzheimer's. I used to talk with my mother everyday, but when the Alzheimer's overwhelmed  her that just wasn't possible anymore. She never called me. I always called her. So it was a crazy surprise to come home one day to find a message from my mom. The first message began, "Hi Robin this is a call from your... cousin... Bea..."  A few days later we came home to find another message from her. The second one began, "Hi Robin this is a call from your... Aunt...Bea...." Both messages went on to say vague things about why she was calling. It broke my heart that I missed those calls, but I had saved both messages for all this time until Tuesday night. Then I did something stupid and I blame it utterly on the spam and robocalls we get a few times a day. The phone rang and we looked at who was calling. It was just a number, no name, from an area code we did not recognize. So we let it go to the answering machine. Mostly those robocalls just hang up, but sometimes some idiot leaves a recorded message about wanting to help us with something blah blah blah. Roger wondered what the message was, so I went in and listened. It was just robocall crap. So, I noticed we had several other messages on the machine, and I thought I would just delete them and leave my two cherished messages from my mom. Well, I made a mistake and hit delete instead of save when I got to the first message. I know you know how much that broke my heart. Now I have only one saved message. But....

...I had a feeling a while ago that I would do something stupid like this so I made a recording of the recording. I have an MP3 on my computer of my mom's messages. Now I want to call our landline from our cell phone and let it go to the answering machine. Then I want to hit play on my MP3 and record my mom's first message again. I know this is utterly crazy, and that's why I'm writing about it here. I'm asking for your thoughtful heartfelt advice. Would you do something like this? (Part of me is laughing as I type this, but part of me is utterly serious.)

We have always hated robocalls and now my contempt for their pathetic outrageous stupidity has reached a new high. It's so high it's higher than Richard Branson or Jeff Bezos could ever fly.

36 comments:

  1. Do whatever you feel you want to do. We all have to deal with our feelings in our own ways.
    I don't know why the planet couldn't have refused Bezos re-entry till he paid all the tax he owes.

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    1. John-- I'm still mulling it over. And I love your idea about having Bezos pay his taxes before he was allowed re-entry.

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  2. We have an old phone that belonged to my father-in-law. It's an antique and it ought to be recycled/thrown out, but the away message is in his voice, and it's the only recording my wife has of him.

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    1. Paul-- I so love your story. I'm glad you are holding on to that phone. Can you make a recording of his voice? It's a good idea to have a backup.

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  3. You know it's nice in a way to find out that other people have the same problem with those calls. We got so fed up with them that I have put a timer on the phone so that it only comes on in the morning and goes off in the evening. My kids have their mobiles and so do we, my wife turns her off at night.. When we go away for a few days the land line is disconnected. Even though we have an answer phone on there it is not turned on (for another reason) and if any one phones if it is not on the saved list we do not answer. Sad thing in this day and age but we get really fed up with these spammers who are only just after taking all your money. If any one deserves to get Covid it is them and preferably so bad they cannot work again.

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    1. Billy-- I wish there was a way to stop them for good. It surprises me how many times a day they call. It's often on our landline, but every now and then we get one on our cell phone. I'm blown away that these idiots keep at it. Do they actually make money this way? Such jerks.

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  4. why save it on the answering machine if you already have it saved elsewhere and can listen to it anytime you want? I'd record the second message the same way (unless you already have). I don't understand the importance of having it on the answering machine.

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    1. ellen-- I have both messages recorded on my computer. I save the ones on the answering machine because I'm a completely neurotic sentimentalist. Hence my dilemma.

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  5. I am glad you had it saved on your computer! It is a comfort to you to hear her voice again. Save it as many ways as you want!

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    1. EllenD-- Yes! Thank you! I love your perspective.

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  6. I erased something similar accidentally and for the same reason. Robo calls. But it was not a message from my mother. How I would love to hear her voice again! Good job recoding it on another device.

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    1. Linda Sue-- Those robocalls are such a nuisance and a bummer. I am so sorry that you had a similar experience. There's something about hearing my mom's voice that just tugs at my little kid heart.

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  7. Yes, I would absolutely do the same.

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  8. My dear cell is now screening my calls for me...and when I notice it's not even letting them ring, I just call them back to make sure they are spam...and they usually have been. It's just strange to be sitting next to a phone and it will have a message for me, one call received, probably spam. I think you should keep listening on the computer and skip saving the messages on the phone, so you don't have this worry again!

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    1. Barbara-- I'm still mulling it over. It does seem crazy to try and record the recording. I wish the robocall spammers would all just vanish from this earth. Poof! Gone. Jerks.

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  9. I can't give any advice but try what you think will work to retrieve your messages. Yes, It was an accident waiting to happen.

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    1. Red-- It was definitely an accident waiting to happen. I'm so glad I thought ahead and recorded those much-loved messages.

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  10. I was going to suggest you record the remaining call but since you all ready recorded both, I say go for it and put her back on your machine.

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    1. Patti-- I'm still mulling it over. I just love knowing that I still have her sweet voice... in my heart, on the answering machine, and on my computer. Ah the modern world.

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  11. Do what makes you feel good and don't worry about if it's nutty. I mean, it's your phone right?

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    1. Ally-- I had a talk with my older brother today and he told me that he has two saved phone messages from our mom on his cell phone. I loved knowing that. I'm thinking I'll probably record her call again from my mp3 version.

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  12. I have voicemail from my brother. I can't listen to them, but I can't delete them, either.

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    1. Mark-- It's good to save them. Some day you might be able to listen, and they'll be there for you.

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  13. I can only say I enjoyed your final comment. Best of luck with whatever you decide.

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    1. Catalyst-- Thank you. I so appreciate all the comments here and the good heartfelt advice.

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  14. Yep. I would do something like that. I have done something like that. There is a message on my phone right now that I will save, just in case I accidentally erase it from my phone. Thank you so much, Robin.

    This came to mind:

    Beyond all reason is the mystery of love: you know we are all equal, no one in truth needs any help from anyone else, no one needs to be told anything or given anything—and then you do the most compassionate act anyway, do the best for your brothers and sisters that you have in you.

    I'm relaying what was given to me when I felt I needed it: if I felt that way, maybe someone else does, too. This is a letter to my brothers and sisters, a love note to try to show how, when we thought love wasn't working, it was working perfectly.
    (Thaddeus Golas)

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    1. am-- I love that you are going to save a recorded message. Mistakes happen, and there are some things that are irreplaceable and we don't want to lose them. My brother told me he has two saved messages from our mom as well. He also said that he has a very old video recording on tape that he made of our parents talking and dancing. It's got to be 30 years old by now. He's going to figure out how to transfer it to a different format so he can share it. Save what you can and cherish it.

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  15. I think you should do whatever makes you happy. If you want your mom back on your answering machine, why not? I'm glad you thought to save the messages on your computer!

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    1. Steve-- Yes! I think it will make me happy to have it back on the answering machine. I may try it today. I've learned that it is good to save what is truly irreplaceable.

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  16. I agree with Steve. Do what you need to do. It's not hurting anyone esle either and nobody has the right to judge.

    I know it's not the same as losing your Mum, but I have a photo of my beloved toy poodle on my phone. It's nearly 3 since he died and I still can't bear to change it.

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    1. Dr Michelle-- I'm planning on doing it. I just haven't done it yet. I'm waiting for the right moment. It's interesting what tugs at our hearts like photos and phone messages. Things our hearts do not want to erase.

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  17. I have a couple similar messages saved on my cell phone (or at least one). I miss the days of the old land line.

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    1. Gohydrology-- I'm glad you saved a similar message. it's good to hear the voices of our dearly loved ones.

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  18. I was pretty sure I left you a comment here saying yes, save the message in your mother's voice, if that's what your heart tells you. My comment may have got lost in the ether, but your beloved mother's voice did not. Hugs.

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    1. 37paddington-- I'm glad you came back and commented. I didn't see the first comment you left. I'm planning on calling the landline and recording my mom's voice. I just like knowing it's there.

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