I have had this little basket on my dresser for 47 years. It comes with so much history. I thought I should share some of its story.
This basket was handmade for me in 1975. It was made from pine needles that were gathered on the ten acres of land I had bought in southern Oregon with my love at the time in 1974. He made the basket and brought it to me after we had split up. It wasn't a peace offering. It was a gift of heartfelt love and sorrow.
I met Michael D eight miles up the mountain trails in Big Sur in 1972. (My family always called him Michael D because we already had a Michael in the family, my twin brother). We talked and laughed and hiked together and got to know each other on that winding trail. We were with two groups of people all hiking to the same campsite. So, we got to spend nice time together out there in the wilderness. I had never camped before and so was completely unprepared, but he was quite the skilled camper, so he helped me find my way for those few days of roughing it.
We exchanged landline telephone numbers and mail addresses. We began writing each other as soon as we got home. He lived in San Jose, and I was living with my parents in the San Fernando Valley. We started a long-distance romance, and then he came south to be with me and start our crazy plan. We both got jobs and started saving money for our dream piece of land. He had a pickup truck, and we built a beautiful wooden homemade camper for it. It had the loveliest madrone door handle. We didn't know where we wanted to settle, so after we had saved enough money to start our journey. We headed east to Virginia to see my cousin who had 108 acres of land in the mountains there. Michael D had never been east before, and it really was not what he was looking for. So, we packed up, drove north and decided to drive across Canada heading west. Oh we did fall in love with Canada. We camped all across the country. The prairies of Saskatchewan were so breathtakingly beautiful. We thought we could see far enough to see the curve the earth. Then we fell in love with the Canadian Rockies and onward to the stunning coast of British Columbia. Oh we loved Canada so much. We crossed the border into Washington and headed south. We drove around looking for land, acres to buy. We finally arrived in southern Oregon, looked at 10 acres with a small boundary on the Illinois River. It was beautiful.
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My dad helping us build the cabin |
We bought it, and started building our cabin there. My parents drove up from Southern California to help us build. We worked without power tools because we had no electricity. We were still living in our little homemade camper. It was rough and beautiful.
But then Michael D got restless. He was a musician. He wanted to go into town to make music, meet people, start a real life there. I was quiet, reading books, and contemplating Ram Dass's Be Here Now. After all of the cross-country crazy travels and finally settling down, we were drifting apart. We suddenly realized we had different dreams and goals. We were headed in different directions.
So, I left. I got on a Greyhound Bus in Cave Junction, Oregon and started my own little 750 mile journey south to my parent's house in Southern California. I mended my broken heart there for a couple of months and headed north to the beautiful little town of Capitola. I got a job as a waitress there in a lovely little restaurant. It was my first waitressing job. It went well. I met lots of people and integrated into the community. I lived in an apartment that had a stunning view of Monterey Bay. I grew confident that I could actually be somebody, go to college, start a new life.
That's when I got a letter from Michael D asking if he could come and visit me. He missed me. He reached out with four hand-written pages of sorrow (I still have that letter). I replied that he could come and visit, but that I had moved on. My heart had healed. I was whole again. So, he did stop by for a very brief visit and brought me this hand-made basket that he had woven himself with pine-needles from our ten acres of land.
I've held on to that basket ever since. It's traveled with me all these years. A gentle reminder of old love. I googled Michael D's name last year. There was only one entry that came up. It was his obituary. He died 25 years ago. It was definitely him because it had his correct birth date. I googled it again just the other day, and even that entry is gone. He's gone. There is not a single entry, not a word that he once lived. Except for that basket, that basket lives on.